I dug it out again recently, as I sullenly passed by dozens of pregnancy and baby books that Houston and I had developmentally outgrown. Lately, there have been situations in life that have me asking that question again: What should I do with my life?
I love this quote by Po Bronson:
"Your calling isn't something you inherently "know," some kind of destiny. Far from it. Almost all of the people I interviewed found their calling after great difficulty. They had made mistakes before getting it right. For instance, the catfish farmer used to be an investment banker, the truck driver had been an entertainment lawyer, a chef had been an academic, and the police officer was a Harvard MBA. Everyone discovered latent talents that weren't in their skill sets at age 25. Most of us don't get epiphanies. We only get a whisper -- a faint urge. That's it. That's the call. It's up to you to do the work of discovery, to connect it to an answer. Of course, there's never a single right answer. At some point, it feels right enough that you choose, and the energy formerly spent casting about is now devoted to making your choice fruitful."
I tried to imagine a life in which money had no bearing and health insurance was a moot point. What WOULD I do if I had true freedom? I wish I was the kind of mom who would say that I'd just stay home with my kid all day. Truth is, as much as I love my son, I don't think he or I would fare well with that scenario. I DO want to be home more with Houston, so that is a factor, but I definitely need my creative space and adult time. I think my dream life would be snuggling with Houston in the morning until about 9, dropping him at Meemaw's for lunch and naptime, and picking him back up again at around 2. From 10-2, I could go to Borders, have a coffee and a danish and just write. I wonder if it means I'm a fatty that two important elements of my job involve food? Food, flexibility, baby time, jammy time, creativity and maybe a little fame... too much to ask for? I don't think so. Well, maybe the jammy time.
So... the question begs to be asked: What should YOU do with your dream life? Leave comments below! :)
Need help deciding? Check out this link for ideas... it's now bookmarked on my comp.
2 comments:
I have that exact issue with my own life. I am a stay at home mom with a husband that works from home and I find that no matter how wonderful or rewarding my mothering my kids and wifing my husband is I still require me time. I often have problems truly having me time. For example Dan gave me two hours of me time the other day and I folded laundry as I watched a show instead of sitting down with coffee next to my laundry and watching the show. Before I knew it my time was over. Yes, I had watched a show and completed two loads of laundry from start to finish but I was on the go for the entire "break". I say this as I am standing at my computer that is in the kitchen so I can constantly be in a state of multitasking. I end up resenting myself for not having a computer at a desk with a chair but I remind myself daily that "I don't have time!" In reality a designated time each day to read and write would be amazing and it wouldn't take much to do out of my day.
So I guess what I am saying is that I too am struggling with this balance and I would absolutely love the schedule that you are proposing.
Not everything is a problem that needs to be solved or a task that needs to be completed. We set our own standards and requirements. I need to loosen my ways and I am so thankful to have a friend to grow with. :) Thank you for the post.
I clicked the link and it told me I should "get married." I hit OK and it then connected me to eHarmony. ummm no.
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